When nothing makes sense in grief, it invites us into a paradigm of mystery. Grief is mysterious and messy. Letting go of trying to understand and instead coming from a place of wonder can be freeing. However, this isnt always easy to do. We can get caught in asking the why and what if questions. Again, be gentle with yourself. Some people ask themselves if their questioning is serving them, and if not, they begin to release it. Other people allow the questioning to work their way through them. Find your own ways.