Last week we talked about the rule of thirds as it applied to how people support or dont support us on our grief journeys one-third are helpful, one-third are indifferent, and one-third are harmful. I mentioned that it is important to spend time with those who are helpful and give ourselves permission to minimize contact with those who dont. Comments from those who are harmful may feel judgmental or condemning of the way we feel. We can allow ourselves to feel hurt and/or angry and then hopefully, hold the comments lightly and release them. Holding lightly is about forgiveness or letting go. Forgiveness can be difficult and is not once and done. We need to make a choice to forgive and continue to chip away at it. Unforgiveness is a heavy weight that can impede our healing. We rise together when we recognize that we are all human and forgiveness helps us heal ourselves.