Rising Together on the grief journey can sometimes feel challenging. Although our family and friends have the best of intentions, their messages may not always feel helpful. Alan Wolfelt, Ph. D., talks about the rule of thirds. One-third of the people we know are supportive and encouraging. One-third are neutral and indifferent. And one-third are unhelpful. Its important to spend time with those who support us and give ourselves permission to minimize contact with those who dont. As grievers, we need to take care of ourselves and surround ourselves with what gives us life. The helpful third will help us all rise together.